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Yup, after page 1 I kinda saw it going that way. Did he leave the girl?

Thanks for saving me some time.
I honestly didn't. It really sucked as a journey.

No one in my life suggested as much, which was good, failing the relationship hurt badly. Being told by others "you're gay" would have really hurt much more. You have to figure it out yourself.

It's been a ride.

It's not done, but I'm at least aware of what the ride IS now.
 

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I honestly didn't. It really sucked as a journey.

No one in my life suggested as much, which was good, failing the relationship hurt badly. Being told by others "you're gay" would have really hurt much more. You have to figure it out yourself.

It's been a ride.

It's not done, but I'm at least aware of what the ride IS now.

Esas ya son intimidades? LOL - jk; it's the spanish way of say TMI before it goes in a different direction. ;)
 

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Just relax man and enjoy the moment. Don't focus on busting, focus on her. Just enjoy the moment-- her groans, titties bouncing, pussy getting nice and wet, and strong eye contact. Your too wound up. With time you'll be more comfortable and it will be easier
😳😳😳...... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You might want to read just a bit more of the thread. 😉
 

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All slick has the do is remove the “s” from “she”.


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A friend admitted to me today that before he got married he “went through an experiment phase”. He said “I don’t regret it, I had fun, I thought I was gay, and then I found my wife after a period of realizing how toxic the lifestyle could be and taking a break. I just needed some distance and perspective.”

Similarly, three other well-meaning friends have said basically: “we think you went off the deep end. Maybe you aren’t where you think you are on the spectrum. Just get some pussy and reevaluate.”

Meanwhile, I just had to have a talk with my FWB. That “I’m not ready to date. I’m not emotionally ready for a man or woman, especially a man.” But also, I think he has stuff to figure out too before he’s ready to date (work life balance stuff). But we both wanted exclusivity because we both are “catching feelings”. So maybe it’s time to hit the brakes a little and reevaluate now too.

The problems are these:
1. I don’t super want to try pussy
2. Id feel wrong hitting someone up for experimentation, I already did feel torn to shreds doing that
3. Id have performance anxiety and pressure again: that’s not gonna help seal new feelings

The alternative arguments are these:
1. Won’t know until I try?
2. I’ve experimented before so go for it again?
3. I didn’t have performance issues with a guy, so maybe I’m over that hump now

My friends are on board. Everyone who I want to know, knows. They also want what’s best for me and several have said that they think best means finding a willing woman to try with.

Some said; just date, find someone you connect with, pursue her; and then try it out. But that seems cruel as a surprise.

I’m really really lost and confused. Maybe I did jump to conclusions.
 

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A friend admitted to me today that before he got married he “went through an experiment phase”. He said “I don’t regret it, I had fun, I thought I was gay, and then I found my wife after a period of realizing how toxic the lifestyle could be and taking a break. I just needed some distance and perspective.”

Similarly, three other well-meaning friends have said basically: “we think you went off the deep end. Maybe you aren’t where you think you are on the spectrum. Just get some pussy and reevaluate.”

Meanwhile, I just had to have a talk with my FWB. That “I’m not ready to date. I’m not emotionally ready for a man or woman, especially a man.” But also, I think he has stuff to figure out too before he’s ready to date (work life balance stuff). But we both wanted exclusivity because we both are “catching feelings”. So maybe it’s time to hit the brakes a little and reevaluate now too.

The problems are these:
1. I don’t super want to try pussy
2. Id feel wrong hitting someone up for experimentation, I already did feel torn to shreds doing that
3. Id have performance anxiety and pressure again: that’s not gonna help seal new feelings

The alternative arguments are these:
1. Won’t know until I try?
2. I’ve experimented before so go for it again?
3. I didn’t have performance issues with a guy, so maybe I’m over that hump now

My friends are on board. Everyone who I want to know, knows. They also want what’s best for me and several have said that they think best means finding a willing woman to try with.

Some said; just date, find someone you connect with, pursue her; and then try it out. But that seems cruel as a surprise.

I’m really really lost and confused. Maybe I did jump to conclusions.
Let’s things happen naturally writing down pros and cons lists is ridiculous. Like your friend if you meet a woman and something clicks then roll with it. But on the same regard you meet a guy amd it clicks go that way. Just relax and try not to put yourself in a category just go about your life and when it’s right you will know. Male, female, cross dresser who knows but when that time is right you will know about it
 

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Agree completely with Trumps post above. You're overthinking this, just let whatever happens, happen.

I went through something similar once, I was torn. I couldn't decide which I liked better. I mean both were good, so what's wrong with both? I felt like I was "cheating" though, I felt dirty. Ultimately it just happened though, and now I know that I like Coke better than Pepsi.

Hope that made you at least smile a little. Don't beat yourself up over this, you'll know who you are in due time.
 

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Just be you and have fun man , like CJ and Trump said. If it feels good and your having fun does it really matter who it's with ? I've never had this issue so I can only guess how confusing it must all be at first I'll give ya the same advice that I'd give one of my kids , the only person worrying is you, relax and have fun , learn laugh discover be yourself and just enjoy where the journey takes you , don't focus on the end result or all the what if's.
 

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What is the definition of insanity again?


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Dted my only advice is don’t let your sexuality define who you are. That’s the biggest issue I see with confused or homosexual or whatever you wanna call it at this point...I have a gay cousin for example and he makes damn sure we all know about his lifestyle every time he shows his cringy little face...of course nobody cares where he puts his little dinger it the character of a man that matters but you probably know this stuff...I’m sure you’ll figure it all out in time brother
 

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Look at it this way, you might've dodged a bullet with some of these women brother. I lost my religion for most of my 20's i only recently got back to it once i realized that God is everything but thats another topic for another day. Gay, Straight, bi, none of that shit makes a difference. Love is Love. I think denial creates more issues than indulgence. Go out and enjoy some ass, don't think too much.
 

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A persons sexuality can evolve. Some people stay the same throughout their lives and others are constantly changing. We grow and learn through our experiences in our lives. I truly hope you find happiness and don't be too hard on yourself. You will find what is right for you. Stay strong...mentally and physically.
 

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Maybe your more emotional than most people. If your emotions define your sexuality than it's may be tough to give you the litmus test. But give it a shot.

Watch some really good straight porn and watch some really good gay porn. If you notice a distinct difference in arousal levels, than your sexuality should be obvious.

I have female friends that I love and male friends that I love. That comes with their kindness and trust. But only females can arouse me.

If for some reason you find yourself only emotionally smitten with females while only being aroused by men, than you got a tough situation.

I would advise you not to experiment with women. Most of them don't like to be lab rats. If you do, you may want to opt to go with a paid professional.

Also, I assume your experiment phase friend is gay. Unfortunately, I think his current marriage situation is going to cause him more harm than good. Be the pioneer in your group of friends and stop questioning what feels right for you.
 
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